Appreciate Your Team Members



John Gottman is a renowned psychologist who works with married couples, and he says that by observing married couples for 15 minutes, he can predict with over 95% accuracy whether they’ll be married or not in five years. Whoa!

One of the leading indicators is how they appreciate each other. Wasn’t that fascinating? He says that just to stay married, there needs to be five great levels of connectivity to everyone, “Hey, what’s wrong with you on this one?” And he says, to have a happy marriage, that needs to be a ratio of 20 to 1.

So what do you need to do in the workplace to make sure that you create great team relationships? Are you a 5 to 1 person? Are you a 20 to 1 person? Are you the kind of person that only finds all the things that are wrong? Now, when calling it tight of team members, you do have to say what’s wrong, but do you also make a point to make sure you’re appreciating team members for not only what they do, but who they are? Appreciate others and watch them blossom around you.

And here’s the important piece. If you don’t feel appreciated, I’m going to make you a promise. You are not appreciating enough. Only those people who don’t appreciate enough are the people who truly feel underappreciated. So step up today, find ways to appreciate the people around you.

5 Responses to “Appreciate Your Team Members”

  1. John says:

    Why do you not make the text available below the video any more? This is not even ADA compliant. Not everyone has audio or can hear.

  2. I second John’s comment. I have a deaf employee who has not been able to benefit from the weekly eZine content for a few weeks now.

  3. Norma says:

    Yes Please bring back text below the videos. We really need this.
    Thank you,

  4. Kathy says:

    Hi, please bring back the text. I am seldom someplace where I can play the video. I am also hearing impaired. Please please please please please!

  5. Debra Apple says:

    Just click on the title of the article.

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