Archive for the ‘Self-Growth’ Category

Be direct

Monday, May 5th, 2014

Every employee who disagrees with a policy or a decision has a choice: ignore it, whine about it, or be direct.

Ignoring something you don’t agree with is fine, so long as you feel the difference of opinion is not a serious error. If you feel that a policy or decision is harmful in a way that really matters, you have an obligation as a member of the team to voice your concern.

But here’s the thing: Don’t whisper your concern in a “meeting outside of the meeting.” That’s destructive to the team. Don’t cross your arms, roll your eyes, and whine to your colleagues who have no way to influence the outcome.

If it doesn’t matter, forget it! But if it does, you have an obligation to put on your grownup pants and head straight for the decision makers who can do something about it.

If those decision makers are worth their salt, and you present the idea calmly and clearly, your stock will only go up in their eyes.

Reading for mastery

Monday, March 17th, 2014

Many years ago, a teacher of mine said reading a book is an opportunity to walk around in someone else’s mind. You don’t just learn things—you actually get inside someone else’s ideas. And when that someone is one of the great minds of business, you have an opportunity for growth unlike any other.

Reading for pleasure is a wonderful thing. But make sure you are also reading for self-improvement, and for mastery of the skills that add up to success in your field.

When you are not reading, your income potential is not going up. If you spend an evening watching TV, you rarely say, “Oh my gosh, I’m SO glad I watched TV all night. I can just feel myself growing.” But when you read a book that’s part of your plan for mastery, you can have that feeling every day.

Mastery of anything takes at least ten years. But that’s not ten years of simply showing up. You need ten years where you’re on a growth curve EVERY YEAR. If you’re in sales, or management, or have a technical position you need to read a book a month just to remain relevant.

Become THE expert in your field. And while you’re at it, start studying for the job you want next. Even if your boss’s job doesn’t open for you, you’ve proven you can self-learn and self-manage. And with that reputation, you can go anywhere!

Show Appreciation This Thanksgiving Week

Monday, November 25th, 2013

It’s Thanksgiving week—a week where we show appreciation. And it’s a good time to remember that the people we work with are not perfect.

Our bosses? Not perfect. Our companies? Not perfect.

But, what an opportunity to appreciate the perfection within them, the wonderful things they do, and the caring they give.

Let me ask you this—if you were to sit down and ask yourself every morning, “What are three things I’m really appreciative of?” I suspect that you’ll find—if you force yourself to say something new every day—that the list would be UNLIMITED.

So today, go around to the people you appreciate, thank them for what they do. Thank your boss for the fact that you have a job. Thank your company for making sure you get a pay check every week. And be in that gracious spirit because the spirit of Thanksgiving is alive and well.

Don’t Hang With Quitters

Sunday, June 3rd, 2012

One of the things I remember my mother drumming into my head is the importance of choosing my friends wisely. Nothing has a greater influence on the person you’ll become, she said. I’m sure I rolled my eyes at the time. But over the years, I’ve come to realize that it’s the single best piece of wisdom she ever gave me.

We’ve all had the experience of reflecting the people around us. If you are surrounded by grousers and whiners, you naturally feel yourself falling into a pattern of grousing and whining, partly because the grousing whiners will reward you for being like them. So how could you not? (more…)

Studies Show That Money Does Not Buy Happiness

Sunday, March 4th, 2012
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More than 200 studies show that money does not make people happy. But hang on—research does show a connection between success and happiness, but it flows the other way. People who are happy earn up to $750,000 more in a lifetime than unhappy folks.

So maybe money doesn’t buy happiness…but happiness apparently buys money!

People in a positive mood talk to others more readily, resolve conflicts more effectively, collaborate more willingly, help others, think creatively, and perform complex tasks better than people who are stressed and unhappy. And all THOSE things add up to greater success.

So how can you inject more happiness into your life? Interestingly, it’s by doing the very things that come easier to happy people. Get out of your cube and interact with others. Help someone else resolve a conflict. Get creative. These things make us happy, which makes it easier to do those things, which…now see the crazy, happy little wheel you’re in?

By seizing these opportunities to make ourselves and those around us happy and content, we put our eventual success a heck of a lot closer. (more…)