Posts Tagged ‘advice’

Go Out on the Top of Your Game

Saturday, March 9th, 2013

Nothing lasts forever, and at some point, you may be looking for a new job. The circumstances of the change may vary—maybe it’s your idea, or maybe you’ve been forced out—but your approach to the change should not vary.

Not everyone knows this. I had an old friend who was a software programmer in San Jose. At the time I knew him, he’d held several jobs in a few years. He told me he wasn’t happy in his newest job and wanted to find a new one. Again.

“Are you moving toward a new job,” I asked, “or running away from your current mess?”

“Well,” he said, “if I’m honest with myself…I suppose I’m running away.” And in the process, I learned he had done some bridge-burning, left some projects unfinished, and said some things he couldn’t take back.

“That’s too bad,” I said, “because there was obviously some lesson you missed while there, some mistakes you’ll probably repeat. I suggest you stay and learn the lesson so you can move toward something—otherwise, we’ll be having this exact same conversation in another year when you’re looking for your next job.”

Despite my sage advice, he left anyway, and started a new job…which he recently lost. Same story, different day.

The trick here is to be honest with yourself. If you’re getting married, it’s easy to say you’re moving toward a relationship—but you might be moving away from being alone. That’s a very different reason to get married, and not a very good one. How many divorced and/or miserable people are out there raising their hands on this one?

You will find that almost EVERY bad decision follows from a violation of a value—a moving away from a fear instead of moving toward something you love.

Making a career change is an important decision—not one to be taken lightly. If you’re going to leave your job, make sure you’re leaving to move toward something…not running away from a boss, coworker or lack of performance.

If you’re not hitting it out of the park at this job, I hate to say it, but you probably won’t be rockin’ it at your next one either. Remember— what you resist persists. Fix any problems where you are before moving on to something else.

You should ALWAYS go out at the top of your game. Only switch jobs when you are truly passionate about a new opportunity, then let your boss know months in advance what your plans are and tie up every loose end. Be the ultimate professional.

Keep Your Nose Clean

Sunday, February 12th, 2012

Your mama taught you this one. If you want to succeed in this world, no matter what those around you are doing, keep your nose clean. After hearing hundreds of stories of why executives released their employees, it’s all pretty clear now. People lose their jobs at astronomical rates because they forget this simple advice.

This isn’t just about big drama, like embezzling from the retirement fund. It’s also crucial to stay out of the gossip game, the whining wars, and all those other dysfunctional behaviors that eat away at the foundation of a healthy culture.

Just because your boss doesn’t see you gossiping or listening to it doesn’t mean she doesn’t feel it and doesn’t hear it from others. And when she gets enough evidence to “deal with it,” you better believe she will.

Now that doesn’t mean you can’t offer constructive criticism. Just be sure to share it with grace and kindness to the person who can do actually something about it. That’s the kind of input that everyone can appreciate.