Posts Tagged ‘Happy at Work’

The Quietly Happy Workplace

Tuesday, September 21st, 2010

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There’s a common misconception that the joyful, engaged workplace has to include a lot of waved pompoms, ringing bells, and people popping up like toast over their cubicle walls with a spontaneous WOOHOO!

While I’m all in favor of getting wild and crazy in the interest of workplace engagement, all this woohooing is only an outward expression of an inner joy. And while many workplaces can and should allow their joy to spill over into public view, some others—a hospital ICU, for example, or a funeral home—might call for a little discretion.

But not TOO much discretion. These workplaces are just as prone to dysfunctional, crazymaking behaviors as any other. And they can be even MORE prone to the negative, depressed emotions that can drag a workplace environment into the pits.

So let’s say I’m the owner of a funeral home. A few of my staffers spend half their time working and the other half making everyone else miserable—gossiping, whining, backstabbing, the works. I can’t exactly encourage my staff to put clown noses on the departed, or to woohoo and greet grieving family members with a hearty, “Hey, how’s it going, dude?” They wouldn’t be there if things were going well.

Workplace engagement is founded on mutual respect and on being of profound service to others. Both of these are as compatible with my hypothetical funeral home as they are with any other workplace.

That doesn’t mean people in these “discreet” lines of work can’t go a little crazy in celebration. You can and you should. A party in a funeral home could have a casket full of ice for the drinks and ladyfinger cookies covered with frosting and standing on end to look like tombstones. Why not? Okay, that is a little too weird.

But engagement doesn’t start with wild parties. It starts with employees who care for each other and treat each other with basic kindness. This it both a matter of what we do (“I remember your daughter wasn’t feeling well—is she better now?”) and what we don’t do (no gossiping behind someone’s back—giving OR receiving).

But it’s also a matter of reframing EVERY aspect of your daily work in terms of being of profound service to others. That, not employee cheer pyramids or conga lines through the lobby, are what transforms a workplace into a place of genuine engagement and joy.

The Company You Keep

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

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Parents are full of advice for their kids. Some of it doesn’t hold up (my face did NOT stay that way, Dad), and some is golden.

A lot of the best advice we give our kids translates just as well into adult life. But too often we fail to apply it to ourselves, as if there’s something magic about the age eighteen that turns golden advice to straw. And that’s too bad.

One of the things I remember Mom drumming into my head is the importance of choosing my friends wisely. Nothing has a greater influence on the person you’ll become, she said. I’m sure I rolled my eyes at the time. But over the years, I’ve come to realize that it’s the single best piece of wisdom she ever gave me.

We’ve all had the experience of reflecting the people around us. If you are surrounded by grousers and whiners, you naturally feel yourself falling into a pattern of grousing and whining, partly because the grousing whiners will reward you for being like them. So how could you not?

On the other hand, when you surround yourself with people who are positive and optimistic and happy to be alive, you can’t help feeling the same.

I have several dear friends now who have that effect on me. When I’m around them, their smiles, their infectious laughs, and their ability to find the joy in life naturally puts me in the same frame of mind. I leave a restaurant or a party with these people and find myself smiling more, opening doors for others, letting people merge on the freeway. The effect is immediate and undeniable.

And it goes well beyond mood. If we want to achieve lasting changes in the way we approach our work and our lives, the very best thing we can do is surround ourselves with people who share those values. Want to be more punctual? Hang out with people who are punctual. Want to see the work you do in terms of service to others instead of a means to support yourself? You know what to do.

Most important of all, you want to choose friends and associates who share the deeper, more fundamental attitudes toward life. Choose to be around people who are enlightened learners, who choose wisdom, who take the high road, who have a heart of kindness, who decide to persevere. Surround yourself with people of strong character because they will hold you to a high standard. Just as the grousing whiners reinforce attitudes and behaviors that are like theirs, so will the decent and wise.

So sure, read all the books you can to improve who you are and how you approach life. But know that the greatest influence of all happens not between the covers of a book, but between people.

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You

Monday, September 6th, 2010

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Thank God it’s Monday!™ One of the best ways to improve your happiness is to decide to move to a state of gratitude. That’s right. Appreciate what you have, every day. I know, I know, you have college tuition payments coming and you’re short, you have a boss who is asking more than is humanly possible, and you don’t have a clue how to keep it all together.

Well, breathe and begin to appreciate what you have. You have a job. You have a boss who cares enough to coach you. You have two arms and two legs that function. Your heart is beating and your white blood cells are working to keep you alive. You get the point.

There is always so much to appreciate, so be in a state of gratitude.

Start by approaching five people in your workplace and letting them know what you appreciate about them. I guarantee you will feel closer to them and enjoy them more just by having done this experience.

Gratitude changes results, so step on up and indulge by wildly giving gratitude.

Have a great Monday!

Roxanne

Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.

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Do I Haaave To?

Monday, August 9th, 2010

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Thank God it’s Monday!™ You hear it all the time. I have to pick up my kids. I have to go to work now. I have to do that project.

What if you changed your language to say I get to pick up the kids now? I get to go to work now. And I get to do that project.

Wow, don’t you just feel better already?

Our language reveals our inner most thoughts, and if you are a “have to” person, you are revealing that you live your life primarily within the “victim archetype.” Ouch. That doesn’t feel good to think about. But, the truth will, you know… set you free.

Simply by changing your language, you’ll feel better about your life because you’ve taken yourself out of the victim role and putting yourself into a powerful position of being at choice.

And yes, you get to choose the language every day.

Have a great Monday!

Roxanne

Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.

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Your Vulnerability is Your Strength

Monday, August 2nd, 2010

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Thank God it’s Monday!™ Being a human can be a little rough some times. In our minds, we want to be perfect. Then, we find out, SURPRISE, we’re not. Dang. When we make that discovery, we immediately begin to beat ourselves up. But that lowers our self-esteem causing us to, well, mess up even more. And now the downward spiral is in place and the suck hole owns our self-esteem.

How do you break the pattern? How do you get your self-esteem back when you discover that you really aren’t that organized and that sometimes your ideas aren’t that perfect?

By getting real. Simply telling the people around you, “Hey, I’m working hard on getting
organized and sometimes, in the past, I know I’ve been a bit of a train wreck. Know that I’m working on it and I’m coachable if you have advice that could help me.”

Bam! Just one authentic conversation and suddenly two really great things will happen. First, people will stop beating you up for being such a mess AND they’ll step in to help. More important, you’ll feel better about you because you’ve been authentic and put the truth out there.

Have a great Monday!

Roxanne

Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.

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