Issue 94 ~ September 6, 2010
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Thank God it’s Monday!™ One of the best ways to improve your happiness is to decide to move to a state of gratitude. That’s right. Appreciate what you have, every day. I know, I know, you have college tuition payments coming and you’re short, you have a boss who is asking more than is humanly possible, and you don’t have a clue how to keep it all together.
Well, breathe and begin to appreciate what you have. You have a job. You have a boss who cares enough to coach you. You have two arms and two legs that function. Your heart is beating and your white blood cells are working to keep you alive. You get the point.
There is always so much to appreciate, so be in a state of gratitude.
Start by approaching five people in your workplace and letting them know what you appreciate about them. I guarantee you will feel closer to them and enjoy them more just by having done this experience.
Gratitude changes results, so step on up and indulge by wildly giving gratitude.
Have a great Monday!
Roxanne
Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.
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Thank God it’s Monday!™ I.Q. has a correlation to success in the workplace, but E.Q., short for emotional intelligence, trumps it every time.
Emotional intelligence is the come from. Are you skewed in how you see people whereby you either assume the best in people who don’t intend to give you’re their best, or do you usually assume the worst, which is far below what the person would really deliver? When things go wrong, is there carnage everywhere around you? Or are you unwilling to say something because your need to be liked trumps your sanity and dignity?
And how’s your thinking? Do you get caught up in your underwear and over think everything, or are you constantly pulling the trigger without understanding the distinctions you should.
How about your self-view? If your self-view is low, you are crushed by feedback and therefore can’t learn from it because people will tip toe around you. If it is too high, you’ll hear the feedback and proceed on because you’ll assume the person giving it is just plain wrong…thank you very much. Incidentally, the emperor’s buttocks were in clear view.
These are just a few areas of emotional intelligence, but you can see how valuable this is to understand about yourself. If you understand, you can put guard rails around you to protect yourself from your most likely moves that could get you in trouble.
Decide to open the hood on your operating system, your emotional intelligence, and watch your life get saner and your results come through.
Have a great Monday!
Roxanne
Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.
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Thank God it’s Monday!™ The other night as I was working late, in comes Matt, the man who cleans our offices. He mentioned that he heard me discuss gossip on a Minneapolis television special. He went on to say that for years he’s been cleaning offices, and that he never ceases to be shocked about how much gossip he hears people spew while he’s cleaning around them. “Don’t they get that as soon as they walk away from that gossip, that they’ll be the next victim?” he asked.
Good point, Matt. People who gossip aren’t discriminating and neither are those who listen to it.
Try a little experiment. Do the opposite. Decide to say something positive about everyone you work around. At the end of the day, see how you feel about yourself. IF someone says something nasty about another, tell them a nice thing about that person and ask them to please go make a direct request of that person they’re complaining about.
Now, THAT makes it all interesting. You get to feel good about YOU, AND you get to teach others around you how to be of excellent character.
Have a hoot spreading the joy…
Have a great Monday!
Roxanne
Roxanne Emmerich’s Thank God It’s Monday! How to Create a Workplace You and Your Customers Love climbed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list and made the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestseller lists—all in the first week of its release. Roxanne is renowned for her ability to transform “ho-hum” workplaces into dynamic, results-oriented, “bring-it-on” cultures. If you are not currently receiving the Thank God It’s Monday e-zine and weekly audios, subscribe today at www.ThankGoditsMonday.com.
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So you’ve never gossiped, you say – never talked about a colleague behind her back, never spread a juicy rumor. Congratulations! I don’t believe you.
Okay, I suppose it’s possible. But most of you out there have probably indulged in this bad behavior at some point. I’m sorry to say there was a time when I did as well. Then I came to realize how poisonous and destructive workplace gossip is. Now I spend my time spreading the anti-gossip gospel.
A workplace full of whispered gossip is excruciating. It is destructive to the soul of your workplace and the souls of the people in it. They never feel safe, always wondering who is talking behind their backs.
Jack has a problem with Tom. So what does Jack do? He tells Lynne, and Jess, and Steve, and Jim, and Sandy. Everyone, that is, but Tom.
It gets even better. Jack quickly realizes he can’t trust Lynne, Jess, Steve, Jim, or Sandy. They are the kind of people who welcome gossip, you see, and people who accept gossip tend to be equal-opportunity mudslingers. Soon enough, they’ll be welcoming gossip about Jack.
Okay, now let’s suppose you’ve got the message. You’ve quit cold turkey on gossiping and backstabbing. But what do you do when someone ELSE comes to you with gossip?
You can certainly put your fingers in your ears and hum the 1812 Overture while tap dancing. But that won’t do anything to help Jack out of his own nasty gossiping habit. And since it’s your watering hole he’s muddying, you have a vested interest in helping him on the road to recovery.
Next time Jack comes to you with complaints about Tom, simply say, “Gee, this sounds serious! Let’s go talk to Tom directly so you can work this out.” When he looks panic-stricken, underline the point: “Well is this a serious problem or isn’t it? I can’t do anything to help you solve it – only Tom can do that. So please promise me you’re heading directly there. If it isn’t serious, then what are we talking about?”
This approach may or may not shock Jack into giving up gossip, but it will certainly send a message that YOU are not an available receiver. It also lets him know that you will not be gossiping behind his back – a positive message in and of itself.