It’s never very attractive when adults whine and complain, is it? Whenever we see somebody else doing it, it just doesn’t feel like something that we want to be around. Yet it’s easy for all of us to go there, right? It’s always easy to point out what’s wrong and “somebody should do something.” Well, there’s nobody with a name tag that says “somebody.”
What do you do when something needs to be done? Follow this formula. Make a request specifically about what you’re looking for and ask for a commitment. Wouldn’t that be interesting? That is the alternative to whining.
Whining just keeps you stuck but making a request and asking for a commitment allows for the situation to have a breakthrough. It’s a way that we show our emotional maturity, and kindness.
If you’re a whiner, forgive yourself for everything from the past—now you know better. Every time you feel like whining, stop it. Instead, next time you feel like whining, simply replace it with a request, and ask for a commitment.