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The Power of Unleashing Dreams

Monday, February 6th, 2023

My father had a dream for me. Because I was the fastest typist in my typing class. He said, “Honey, you could stay right in town here, and you could type loan papers and other papers for the law firm in town.”

Now, I don’t know about you, but when I heard those words, it was like, some kind of dagger in my heart. I decided at that time, that is not my dream.

I want something else in life. I wasn’t sure exactly what it would be, but I knew it wasn’t going to be typing papers at the law firm.

I decided I wanted to have something different.

I think the power of great dreams is the power to understand that any one of us can make a difference in other people’s lives.

Meaning, I never knew that I could use that skill to become a New York Times bestselling author because that was something that just came as a result of my commitment to helping other people.

I wonder what happens when you have great dreams about the impact you have on your customers, about the impact you have on the rest of your team, about the impact you have on your own life, your own family, your own community.

It’s astonishing what can happen when we have dreams about being of service to others. Welcome it.


Master of My Fate and Captain of My Soul

Monday, January 30th, 2023
 

When Henley wrote, “I am the master of my fate, and I am the captain of my soul,” what he failed to mention was that it’s true because we have the power to control our own thoughts.

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Change Your Routine, Change Your Life

Monday, January 23rd, 2023

Is this your last day on planet Earth? Probably not, hope not. And yet you never know.

There is no guarantee how long we get to go around this planet. But the reality is that we can make every day we live on this planet our masterpiece by creating opportunities and seeing possibilities and living vivaciously as if this could be our last day on planet Earth.

Yet many people plod along, they wake up in the morning, they make coffee, they drive to work, they punch in, they do their job, they punch out. They drive home, they watch television, they eat dinner, they go to sleep, they wake up, they make coffee, they drive to work, they punch in.

They’re not making their life a masterpiece.

We have one chance every single day to start from scratch, to create opportunities that could change our life forever.

Decide to make today your masterpiece.

The games people play…

Monday, December 5th, 2022
 

The Games People Play

Whether it’s conscious or subconscious, many people play games in the workplace. When I say “play games,” that isn’t exactly a compliment. I’m not referring to workplaces that have bean bags and foosball tables.

For instance, if your supervisor asks you to get something done, and you pretend later not to know about the assignment, and at the time that it’s due, you start to ask questions? That’s not going to go so well.

When bank employees play games in the workplace, it isn’t a good thing because what they’re doing is basically pretending not to know. It’s also called passive-aggressive behavior. Pretending not to know you are engaging in passive-aggressive conversation and behavior is not attractive in adults.

Get Conditions of Satsifaction

Instead, whenever you are unclear about something, get your conditions of satisfaction that we discussed before. And if it looks like you might be missing a deadline, negotiate well in advance and let your boss know well in advance that…

  1. there is an obstacle
  2. what it is
  3. what you’re doing to get around it
  4. and what your new intended deadline would be.

Ask if that is acceptable, because sometimes just because you’ve negotiated for it doesn’t mean that it’s automatically going to be a “Yes” answer from your boss. Maybe you have to reprioritize something else to get it done.

That cleanliness in how you have that conversation makes a big difference in the relationship and the outcomes of your job. Be very thoughtful about keeping your conversations clean, make direct requests of people, fulfill on those, and if you blow it for whatever reason, just say these beautiful words, “I blew it.” It’s that simple.

Everybody knows that everybody makes mistakes. That part’s okay. Granted, that obviously can’t happen every day, all day long. But when you make a mistake, how you handle that mistake defines who you are to everyone around you. It is a sign of your character. So, next time you blow it simply say these 3 words, “I blew it.”

Here’s my massive corrective action plan:

Number one, make sure it never happens again.

And number two, make sure this gets corrected and caught up.

Doing Just Enough is Never Enough

Monday, November 7th, 2022

We all know those people who just basically do the core things required of the job. And yet, when we put ourselves in a state of assuming that we will do nothing short of excellence, we stand out. Not only that, we make a difference in people’s lives, we get noticed, we feel good about ourselves, and we go home. And yet, most people are trying to figure out how can they get away with the least amount possible, as opposed to, “how can I be a standard for excellence going above and beyond always, “plus-oneing” everything that I do, always making sure everything is accurate and perfect and above and beyond.” It’s an interesting way to live, isn’t it?