Thank God It's Monday®! Blog https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog Thu, 19 May 2022 13:43:06 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=5.7.6 Play Tall, Not Small https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/23/play-tall-not-small/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/23/play-tall-not-small/#respond Mon, 23 May 2022 09:36:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5187 When we say something negative about another person, it's important for us to ask ourselves, where does that come from?

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Collette says: “The better we feel about ourselves, the fewer times we have to knock someone down  to feel tall.” 

When we say something negative about another person, it’s important for us to ask ourselves, where does that come from?

We’ve all done it before. When we do it, it usually doesn’t help the situation, and it certainly doesn’t help the person.

This usually comes from someone who doesn’t feel good about themselves.

When we’re hurting, we want to create the impression that we’re above others and that we are doing things right, and that they aren’t. That’s not the best because as soon as we say something negative about someone else, about what they’re not doing, or how they’re doing right in front of others, we’re only making the situation worse.

So today, get into action by saying only good things about others. And if something’s wrong and not okay, it doesn’t mean that we ignore it and don’t deal with it but that we’re not talking down to the person.

Instead, we’re talking about what’s wrong with a process, what’s wrong with the outcome, as opposed to knocking down a human.

Be conscious of this because those words can be hurtful. And as you knock somebody else down, sometimes they stay down. And that’s going to be hard to live with.

Bring people’s spirits up instead, by only saying positive things about people behind their back. And if it’s a management thing where you have to talk about what isn’t done, that’s different.

Bring those challenges to managers with a request for a change, not a complaint.


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No Matter Where You Go… There You Are. https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/16/no-matter-where-you-go-there-you-are/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/16/no-matter-where-you-go-there-you-are/#respond Mon, 16 May 2022 09:51:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5182 If you don't like this job, statistically, it's been proven that you won't like the next one… It is a skill set to decide to love your job.

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I read a quote recently. It said: “People think it is about finding a job they love. It’s not. It’s about loving the job you have.”

Yes, It’s about loving the job that you have.

You know what, you probably have a great job.

I guarantee you, while not perfect, you have some teammates who are pretty good human beings. And there’s probably one or two things about your supervisor that are probably pretty cool. And your CEO may not be perfect but probably has many good qualities. And your clients, oh my goodness, you get to make a difference in their lives!

It’s just not that bad.

The problem with switching jobs is everywhere you go there you are.

If you don’t like this job, statistically, it’s been proven that if you don’t like this job, you won’t like the next one… the one after that… and the one after that.

It is a skill set to decide to love your job, and it requires two things.

Number one, you get good at it, which means education never ends. Be a voracious leader and a learner to make sure that you understand things in the best possible way.

Number two, make a decision to be fantastic at what you do and to bring joy to what you do every day. It is a decision. Happiness is a decision.

The Dalai Lama said it best: “Happiness is a decision.” When you look at that decision, you’ll live a life that is happy.

So… stop looking for a new job to make you happy.

Start loving the job you have.


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“Go find work…” https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/09/go-find-work/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/09/go-find-work/#respond Mon, 09 May 2022 09:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5178 If you're waiting to be told or sitting there waiting for the direction to do something when you can see it needs to be done, that's not what your team needs from you.

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People are too interested in job descriptions.

I don’t believe in job descriptions; I believe that your job is to see what isn’t there and make that thing happen.

Yes, there are certain things that are expected from you in terms of your key roles and responsibilities and your critical drivers, all of those things matter. Yet, there are so many other things that happen within the company.

If you’re waiting to be told or sitting there waiting for the direction to do something when you can see it needs to be done, that’s not what your team needs from you. W.R. Grace had a wonderful way of hiring people years ago.

After they would hire them they would say: “Okay, you are hired, go find work. We’re not going to spoon-feed you.”

So go into a meeting, discover what needs to be done, and say I’ll take that project.”

Go out and say: “I’ll move that ahead. You can count on me boss, this will come back as a completion.”

Your job is to see what isn’t there.

Bring it home, make it happen.


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A Simple Question That Improves Even Good Communication https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/02/a-simple-question-that-improves-even-good-communication/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/05/02/a-simple-question-that-improves-even-good-communication/#respond Mon, 02 May 2022 09:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5176 Communication is one of the hardest things to get right. Between what the sender is saying and what the person who's listening hears...

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Communication is one of the hardest things to get right.

Between what the sender is saying and what the person who’s listening hears, there is almost always a breakdown. The thing said is not usually what the person heard.

Yet most people go on with what they’ve heard, try to create the change in the work to make something happen, mess up, and say, “But you said…” Well, that’s not what they said, it’s what was heard.

It’s important that both people involved in communication understand the thought of closing the communication cycle. So, what’s the communication cycle?

It basically means this: there’s a sender who sends out the communication, and there’s a receiver who hears the communication.

It goes like this: “Tommy, I need the XYZ report completed to the specifications I laid out in the bullets that are laid out in the form that I gave you and I need it by seven o’clock on Thursday.”

The person who receives that message says: “Okay, what I think I heard is that you need it by seven o’clock, I do have that form. I understand the specifications, I will complete it to those specifications, and I believe you need it by seven o’clock on Thursday. Do I have everything correct?”

You would think that this is the end of a communication cycle because this is already far better than what usually happens? But oh no! There’s more.

What needs to happen next? Now, the person who received the request needs to come back to the person and say: “Hey, you asked me to put together this project by seven o’clock on Thursday meeting these specifications. Here are the specifications. Here’s the project. Did this meet your conditions of satisfaction?” Not until the person says, “yes” is it a finalized product.

Think about the number of times when people say: “ Yes. I did that. It’s sitting in a folder on my desk… Yes, I did it. It’s saved on our intranet…” Who would know if it was done correctly?

Think about the amount of rework that gets done in companies because somebody doesn’t check to make sure it hits the conditions of satisfaction before they check the little piece on their to-do list.

If they instead would just say: “Did this meet the conditions of satisfaction?\” and get that “Yes.” Now, they know it is completed correctly, and the rework goes away.

That’s the way to close the communication cycle. And guess what? That is your job.


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The One Question to Ask to Get You Unstuck and Moving Toward Your Outcome https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/25/the-one-question-to-ask-to-get-you-unstuck-and-moving-toward-your-outcome/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/25/the-one-question-to-ask-to-get-you-unstuck-and-moving-toward-your-outcome/#respond Mon, 25 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5173 How we bring joy into the room matters because we're either breathing life into life or sucking it out. We are never a neutral event.

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Ten birds are perched on a wire. Three decide to fly away. How many birds are left? Ten. Because the three didn’t fly away, they just decided to fly away.

Yes, thinking about doing something is very different than getting into action.

Many people in this world are suffering from this word called overwhelm. Overwhelm is something we do to ourselves when we don’t take action.

The cure to overwhelm? Take action. Take some small action.

Ask yourself this question: “What is the smallest thing I can do right now that I couldn’t fail that would move me toward my outcome?” And then get into action.

It’s easy to sit and stew and think about what isn’t being done in the big list of to-do’s that becomes more overwhelming by the moment.

Here’s the thing, many people think: “Oh, I’ll just have to switch jobs because this job is just too much. And so I’ll have to find an easier job.” Then, they go out of the frying pan and into the fire. Into a different job only to discover now they have less experience how to do that job and less team-building with the people they’re working with… and their job just got harder again.

If you look at the statistics, the same people who are leaving jobs are leaving them again. Out of the frying pan and into the fire!

Instead, take action on the things you can take action on because wherever you go, there’s going to be too much to do. But, you can always take action on the most important things.

So, set your priorities and constantly look at those priorities. Take one at a time. Don’t look ahead to the next one. And take the first one to completion every single time before you move on to the next.


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We Are Either Doing THIS or THAT All the Time https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/18/we-are-either-doing-this-or-that-all-the-time/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/18/we-are-either-doing-this-or-that-all-the-time/#respond Mon, 18 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5171 How we bring joy into the room matters because we're either breathing life into life or sucking it out. We are never a neutral event.

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Maya Angelou said: “They will never remember what you told them or what you did. But they will always remember how you made them feel.”

Every moment, we have a chance to have encounters with our clients, with our co-workers, with their children in a way that makes them feel better about themselves.

How we feel about ourselves impacts how we make others feel about themselves.

How we bring joy into the room matters because we’re either breathing life into life or sucking it out. We are never a neutral event.

We have a choice. We can make sure other people feel better because we choose to bring joy to the conversation, talking about possibilities as opposed to what’s wrong, moving things through quickly, and celebrating the successes along the way.

Listen, it’s easy to find things that are wrong. I’m very capable of doing it.

I am not talking from the mountain here as someone who is capable of always being in this place, but I do know that my life goes better and that I make other people’s lives better when I sincerely make an attempt to breathe life into life, to bring joy in my heart, and to make sure that I’m thinking about bringing joy into their heart at the same time.


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Excuses Disguised as Explanations… https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/11/excuses-disguised-as-explanations/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/11/excuses-disguised-as-explanations/#respond Mon, 11 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5169 Saying the words “I'm sorry” is not the same as saying: “I blew it. It'll never happen again. And I'm putting systems in place so that it won’t happen again.”

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Explanations come across as excuses.

So when something falls apart and doesn’t work out the way that you had hoped, or you miss a deadline,  or some outcome doesn’t happen, telling them the sad story about why it is that way only serves to put you in the place of victimhood.

Everybody sees it… And it’s not attractive as adults.

Next time you blow it—and you will because you’re breathing—instead of giving a sad story and explaining to everybody why it’s such a relevant reason why you didn’t get things done, offer up an apology that is sincere along with a: “Listen, guys, This shouldn’t have happened. It won’t happen again. This is what I’m doing to make sure it doesn’t happen again.”

That is authentic.

I have a friend who wrote a book on trust, and he had someone from another country say to him: “You Americans, you are just serial liars. You keep saying that you’re sorry, but you keep doing the same thing over and over again.”

Saying the words “I’m sorry” is not the same as saying: “I blew it. It’ll never happen again. And I’m putting systems in place so that it won’t happen again.”

We don’t want to be apologetic liars. We want to be truth-tellers that are authentic when we blow it. Leave the excuses at home.

Just say: “I blew it. Here’s my massive corrective action plan. This shouldn’t have happened. I let you down. It won’t happen again.”


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The #1 Way to Show You Care… https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/04/the-1-way-to-show-you-care/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/04/04/the-1-way-to-show-you-care/#respond Mon, 04 Apr 2022 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5167 Listening is not just with our ears, but with our hearts because we need to understand why are they saying that? What are their motivations? Gosh, it seems like this person is hurting. What is the concern here? How do we move through this particular piece?

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The great philosopher Homer Simpson says: “Just because I don’t care, doesn’t mean I’m not listening.”

Okay, there you have it. You can always quote some good stuff from Homer.  He’s pretty brilliant.

But are you showing that you’re listening to show that you care?

Look, listening is a hard thing to do.

Most of us are waiting our turn to talk instead of actually listening to hear what is being said.

Listening is not just with our ears, but with our hearts because we need to understand why are they saying that? What are their motivations? Gosh, it seems like this person is hurting. What is the concern here? How do we move through this particular piece?

As we’re thinking about listening, think about how you’re being a listener in your life.

How are you listening to your supervisor? Your spouse? Your children? Your colleagues? Your clientele? How are you hearing what’s really underneath the words?

Listening is hard. And listen, nobody’s perfect. I’m sure not. It is something that when we choose to get better at it, we do get better at it.

So don’t take advice from Homer Simpson. Instead, decide to make sure that you are listening and that you care.


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The Key to Conflict Re-SOLUTION… https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/03/28/the-key-to-conflict-re-solution/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/03/28/the-key-to-conflict-re-solution/#respond Mon, 28 Mar 2022 10:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5164 What is it with whoever said there was something wrong with being wrong? We're wrong all the time. Being wrong is what we do. We're humans. We can't possibly be right all the time.

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Anyone who thinks there aren’t two sides to a conflict probably isn’t in one. Can you relate?

The time that something is going wrong is also about the time that most people dig those heels right in to make the case that they aren’t wrong.

What is it with whoever said there was something wrong with being wrong? We’re wrong all the time.

Being wrong is what we do. We’re humans. We can’t possibly be right all the time.

Instead, why don’t we just say, “Oh, that’s interesting. Tell me more about that. I want to understand. How can we work this out together? Sounds like we disagree on this? I wonder what the common ground is? Tell me what do you think we could do to find a common ground to move ahead on this?”

The fine art of the dialogue to work through a complex situation is a skill that we need to figure out as we put our big boy and big girl pants on in life.

We learned our conflict resolution skills, sadly, in about the fourth grade… and most of us have really never gotten more development since that time.

It’s not our fault. But, now it’s time to figure this out. Because we live in a conflict-ridden world.

Work is filled with conflict. Life is filled with conflict.

Learning the skills of conflict, of staying calm, of asking questions.

Don’t assume that you’re right. Be curious about the other side. And bring your best, most respectful self forth.

That takes you through the complexity of conflict so that you always understand the relationship is always more important than being right.


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When to Be More Like Your Cat than Your Dog… https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/03/21/when-to-be-more-like-your-cat-than-your-dog/ https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/2022/03/21/when-to-be-more-like-your-cat-than-your-dog/#comments Mon, 21 Mar 2022 09:00:00 +0000 https://www.thankgoditsmonday.com/blog/?p=5161 Be judicious with your words because they matter, and those little word choices and how you decide to use them make a difference about whether or not you're the kind of person that other people want to work with. Or, you become that person that no one wants to work around.

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Can’t seem to operate under the principle that there’s no problem asking a question, huh?

Diane Sawyer says, “a criticism is just a really bad way of making a request, so why not just make the request.” 

It’s so easy to go into a victim mentality and build a case against something when instead you could be asking for someone to do something about it.

We all tend to go into victimhood occasionally because we get something from it.

Whenever we’re a victim and don’t get what we want, we get to blame somebody. Then, everybody feels sorry for us, and they say “Oh, you poor thing!” and quite frankly, if we’re really truthful, there’s a need inside of us that is met by that. But it isn’t our healthiest self.

We’re far better off making a request for what we want.

Let’s face it, the world goes a lot faster when people just say “can you give that to me, we need to move over here right now, I need you to change this report.”

Simply make the request as opposed to saying “I don’t like the report and he never moves over where he needs to be.”

You can see the negative energy that comes along with a negative request as Diane Sawyer calls it. So, why not be more like your cat rather than your dog and assume that you can ask for things that you might get?


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