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Our disowned parts…

Monday, November 22nd, 2021
 

What part of you are you projecting on others?

Carl Jung taught us that what we love about other people we love about ourselves. What we dislike about others, speaks highly of the work we need to do on ourselves. Okay, I know you didn’t want to hear that. And yeah, I know you don’t believe it. And yet, psychologist after psychologist has proven that we project our disowned parts of ourselves onto others.

Look around and decide what you don’t like in other people that you work with.

If you had a problem getting along with your boss, it might not have anything to do with your boss, and you might not have had a good relationship with your previous boss and perhaps the boss before that.

If that’s the case, I’ll bet they all look the same. Why? Because these kinds of things are archetypal. In other words, we repeat the same patterns we had before; patterns so foundational to ourselves that we keep seeing them. So, as you listen to people complain about others in your workplace, notice that oftentimes, what people are really complaining about is their disowned parts of themselves.

Own the parts of you that are the ugly

So instead, ask people for what you want directly. Own the parts of you that are the ugly little part of you; that evil twin that comes along to work every day.

As you own that and look at that, it gives you the ability to say, Hmm, okay, I could be doing some work on myself. I’m going to stop making it about others and instead, step into it and realize that it’s my job to decide to love everybody with whom I work.

We still have our lines in the sand asking for what we need, but we can do it with kindness and gentleness, and just create a better awareness as opposed to being upset by it, and then we can stop projecting our disowned parts of ourselves onto others.

I bet we’ll be a whole lot happier being ourselves and being with the people that we’re around.

How to make every decision a good one…

Monday, November 15th, 2021
 

Do you make good choices? Really? If so, how often?

Do you make good choices? Really? If so, how often?

  • Most of the time?
  • All the time?
  • Some of the time?
  • Hardly ever?

Making good choices will define the results you create in your life.

But most people don’t have a really good idea how to go about making good choices. You see, when we’re looking at a choice, we have to ask these questions and give honest answers:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”
   

And as we look at each of those three columns, we have to ask ourselves, “what’s the likelihood that you’re going to get the best possible outcome?” “Can I live with the worst possible outcome?” And “Is it worth it to do what’s most likely?”

By actually writing those three things out in three different columns (example above), It’ll be very clear, what is the right decision to move ahead with.

What’s the likely scenario?

Let’s say you’re thinking about getting a new job, because a lot of people are thinking about and doing that right now.

So, what is one of the best things that could happen? You could get a raise! That would be fantastic. There could also be more ease in your job. Obviously, those would be some of the best things that could happen.

What’s the worst thing that could happen? Well, you could get that new job and later decide you hate it or hate the people you’re working with every day. You could also get that new job and find out exactly why the person left that you’re replacing.

Now, if you leave right away, you’ve got this hole in your resume, and that’s going to look really, really bad, because you’ve job-hopped a couple of different times.

Other worst things? The economy could turn such that they start laying people off, and since you’re the new person, you’re the first one to be laid off and your family no longer has that income to rely on; that stability.

What’s the likely scenario? Likely you might get a little bit of a raise, and likely, you’re probably going to have more work to and it’s going to be harder to do the work because you’re new to the job and getting used to a new boss, etc.

So it’s likely, it’ll be more stressful than the situation that you have now. And likely, you’re not going to have the same depth of relationships as what you are enjoying now, so you’ll lose a lot of that feeling of connection. So, your decision grid might look something like this:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”
Get a raise
Less work
Better people
Better boss
Little raise
Little more work
to do
More stress at first
Less connection with people at first
More work
Might hate it
Worse co-workers
Job/conditions are worse
Hole in resume if…
1st out if layoffs happen  

Now you can go forward with a decision using the follow-up questions above.

You see, most people when they’re looking for a new job, for example, and they’re making a decision, look only at the one column and their decision grid looks more like this:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”
Get a RAISE!!!      

They’re going to pay me more. Yep, there’s always another side to that story.

Ask yourself these questions:

Now ask yourself this:

“How can you instead stay in this job and find a way to be worth more and create a career for yourself?”

It’s fascinating how the people who seem to do best in life tend to hang on to those jobs and find ways to continue to be advanced within their organization.

So, for career decisions and any decisions you make, ask yourself these questions:

  • How can you learn more?
  • How can you move ahead better?
  • How can you make better decisions in everything that you touch?

The games people play…

Monday, November 8th, 2021
 

The Games People Play

Whether it’s conscious or subconscious, many people play games in the workplace. When I say “play games,” that isn’t exactly a compliment. I’m not referring to workplaces that have bean bags and foosball tables.

For instance, if your supervisor asks you to get something done, and you pretend later not to know about the assignment, and at the time that it’s due, you start to ask questions? That’s not going to go so well.

When bank employees play games in the workplace, it isn’t a good thing because what they’re doing is basically pretending not to know. It’s also called passive-aggressive behavior. Pretending not to know you are engaging in passive-aggressive conversation and behavior is not attractive in adults.

Get Conditions of Satsifaction

Instead, whenever you are unclear about something, get your conditions of satisfaction that we discussed before. And if it looks like you might be missing a deadline, negotiate well in advance and let your boss know well in advance that…

  1. there is an obstacle
  2. what it is
  3. what you’re doing to get around it
  4. and what your new intended deadline would be.

Ask if that is acceptable, because sometimes just because you’ve negotiated for it doesn’t mean that it’s automatically going to be a “Yes” answer from your boss. Maybe you have to reprioritize something else to get it done.

That cleanliness in how you have that conversation makes a big difference in the relationship and the outcomes of your job. Be very thoughtful about keeping your conversations clean, make direct requests of people, fulfill on those, and if you blow it for whatever reason, just say these beautiful words, “I blew it.” It’s that simple.

Everybody knows that everybody makes mistakes. That part’s okay. Granted, that obviously can’t happen every day, all day long. But when you make a mistake, how you handle that mistake defines who you are to everyone around you. It is a sign of your character. So, next time you blow it simply say these 3 words, “I blew it.”

Here’s my massive corrective action plan:

Number one, make sure it never happens again.

And number two, make sure this gets corrected and caught up.

“What does ‘done’ really look like?”

Monday, November 1st, 2021
 

Before you start the next project, think about the conditions of satisfaction.

What does that mean? That means that whoever it was that gave you a project probably has some idea about what they want to have done with it; they have an outcome in mind.

They also know what procedures have been followed in the past.

They know where things can go wrong, what you should be managing around, and when this thing is due, and what “done” looks like.

By getting the conditions of satisfaction before starting a project, your likelihood of having to do it only once AND having somebody give you a high-five at the end goes up substantially.

Sadly, here’s how it works for most people:

  1. they hear there’s something to be done
  2. they start running wildly toward that direction, not understanding…
    1. the when
    2. the how
    3. the goal, what the outcome is supposed to look like…

And then, when they deliver something to their boss— or worse yet, have it sitting on their desk or in a folder on their computer, that is NOT a recipe for getting things done.

When we don’t find out the conditions of satisfaction first and then come back afterward and ask, “Did this meet the conditions of satisfaction?” What we’re doing is creating chaos in the workplace.

Listen, nobody needs to be working nights and weekends doing rework— not you and especially not your boss, because if they keep having to do your work over again, likely that does not bode well for your career. So, every time you’re given instructions about what to do, first just stop.

Ask a lot of questions to get the conditions of satisfaction before moving ahead.

But move quickly once you have them and bring it back and ask if this meets the conditions of satisfaction.

“Out of the frying pan and into the fire”

Monday, October 25th, 2021
 

It’s the great turnover tsunami of 2021 and you’re thinking, “hmm… should I be looking for another job?”

Think about it.

So many people are wanting to move from one job to another because they think this job is stressful. And yet, they’ll be moving into a new job where they don’t know how to do the work, where likely that new company is also experiencing the “Turnover Tsunami,” and they probably won’t hear about it until after they’re there.

Which means?

Truth is, sixty percent of people think that they want to go get another job.

Let me remind you what my mother once taught me: the expression “out of the frying pan and into the fire” is very real. You’re probably going to be doing the work of three to four people. Now, you just left one job and your resume has a big old dent because you just moved and if you move again, that’s not going to look good.

So now let me ask you this: Do you suppose that’s less stressful?

Yeah, I don’t think so either.

I don’t think a lot of people are thinking about the concept of making sure that they make what they have good. Yes, it has definitely been a stressful year for everybody. Everyone has more to do than they have time and hours to do it. Everyone has had all the pressures from COVID that have created craziness in almost everybody’s lives.

When we make a decision out of fear as opposed to making a decision out of love— that’s when we end up always having a bad experience. What do I mean by that? If we’re making a decision to leave one place, based on the fear of, “this isn’t working” and “I’m not happy,” and “this isn’t going to work,” then maybe all you need to do is change your attitude about where you are and maybe you need to be grateful for what you have and decide to just be happy because happiness is a decision.

Yes, I understand it can be difficult.

That’s why they call it a “job” and not a “Disney.” That’s why you’re not paying an admission fee to get in the office every morning. It can be very difficult sometimes. Do you really want to go someplace else with people you don’t know and love (nor know and love you), to take on what will now probably be the job of two or three people because they too have the “Turnover Tsunami” which means now you have to learn a new job and all the new skills and all of that added stress as a result?

So, think clearly before making your decision.

Why don’t you decide today to love the one you’re with?