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Be the Miracle

Sunday, November 2nd, 2025

Mediocrity is crowded. Miracles are available.

In this week’s video, Roxanne Emmerich challenges leaders to reject the illusion of “safe” and operate from possibility. From moon landings to global video calls, every breakthrough was once declared impossible—until someone chose it anyway. The same is true inside your organization.

In this video you’ll discover how to:

Adopt a miracle mindset. Decide that extraordinary outcomes are your responsibility—then align behavior, cadence, and standards to match.

Destroy the myth of safety. Recognize that “playing it safe” is the riskiest strategy; everything can change in an instant, so choose bold action.

Replace “middle” with mastery. Build a culture where people stretch, execute, and never shrink back to yesterday’s limits.

Executives don’t need more platitudes; they need a repeatable way to create outcomes others call improbable. This episode invites you to treat stretch goals as the default, silence the “can’t be done” chorus, and organize your team to deliver the improbable on schedule.

Discover how to be the miracle—starting this week.

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“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” —Albert Einstein.

The invention of the television? A miracle. A man walking on the moon? A miracle. Instantaneous access to the world via video communication? A miracle. As every one of these ideas was pondered, there were many who said, “That can’t be done.” And yet each one happened.

And remember that each day thousands of other miracles happen—wonderful stuff, amazing stuff, stuff that often doesn’t make the daily news.

But they are miracles nonetheless. Whether it’s putting a man on the moon, meeting an impossible deadline, or exceeding a stretched sales goal against all odds—we thrive when we commit to create our own miracles. Working toward our own miracles stretches us in every way to be more than we have been in the past. And when we pull it off, we can never shrink back to our limited thinking and execution again.

We now own a higher level of power. What if you lived as if it was your responsibility to create miracles?

Besides, who wants to go to work and shoot wildly for mediocrity? “I’ll meet you in the middle.” “Let’s reach for the middle.” “It’s lonely at the middle.”

None of these even sound good. There is a gnawing in our souls to be a part of something great. Great philosophers write about the desire to be great. We are all called to make an impact, to shake things up, to make the world a better place because we live.

And then the rational mind interferes. You can find one hundred people who will tell you something is impossible for every one who thinks it can be done. And those one hundred are absolutely right as far as their own horizons are concerned—because at their level of understanding of how life works, it is impossible.

Possibility thinking is available to all of us, but it’s only used by a few. The ego preserves a feeling of safety by refusing to stretch our understanding of what is possible.

But safety is an illusion.

From our health to our money to our relationships—everything can change in an instant, no matter how safe it feels right now. History books are filled with examples. So let’s get over the illusion of safety. It’s not real.

If you think it is, you’re diagonally parked in a parallel universe. The only thing that is real is that you are here in this time and place, and you have this moment to dream big and live life to the max. So why not dream about miracles? Decide to create them.

Plan on making them happen. Don’t contaminate your energy or your dream by listening to those who will tell you it can’t be done. They haven’t yet learned the secret that miracles are given to those who choose them.

Boss Whisperer: Get Buy-In and Lead with Influence

Monday, October 27th, 2025

Stop blaming “bad bosses.” Start becoming the person who gets buy-in.

In this video, Roxanne reveals a counterintuitive truth: most managers aren’t villains—they’re humans doing their best without perfect information. Waiting for a “poof” moment of enlightened leadership keeps teams stuck. Influence moves things forward.

You’ll discover how to:

Ask for what you need—clearly and respectfully. Influence starts when you make the right request to the right person at the right time.

Coach up with specifics. Small, observable behaviors (like a 30-second hello at the teller line) compound into cultural change.

Be the guide, not the critic. Adults complain; leaders convert friction into direction and results.

Instead of quitting or stewing, choose a higher game: manage up, model the culture, and make it easy for your boss to say “yes.” The marketplace rewards people who create alignment without drama—and your career will, too.

Ready to shift from passive frustration to decisive influence? Decide to make your boss the best boss you’ve ever had—because you make that happen.

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If you aspire to become a boss someday, let me share with you how it goes.

One day somebody gives you the promotion.

People will start to call you “boss,” and—poof—you become enlightened.

You know everything.

You never make mistakes.

You’re all-knowing about how to handle people. Yeah, not on planet Earth. The reality is that managers are just humans trying to figure it out. So why are we always beating them up for not doing what a perfect boss would do? We have to discover to manage our bosses because sometimes they’re just gonna do things that are inappropriate. Sometimes they’ll say things that could have been smoother.

Sometimes they’re not gonna give us the guidance, and sometimes they’re not gonna be bought into what they need to be bought into to create a better organization. So what do you do? Do you quit? Well, if you quit, let me guarantee you you’re gonna have the same boss at the next place.

Everywhere you go, there you are, because you haven’t discovered to manage your boss. So here’s the thing with bosses. You have to discover to be able to walk in and ask for what you need. I got a lesson years ago from little Annie Kellaway, who I had hired to be the marketing manager at our bank.

And as I hired her, I was so impressed with her. She was only about this tall, and she was feisty, and she was bright, and she was just good people. And one day I saw her walking across the lobby on the way to the owner of the holding company’s office, then thinking, she’s only been here three weeks, and she’s, like, already barging into the owner of the holding company’s office.

Who told her she could do that? I hope she doesn’t get in trouble. Well, about five minutes go by. She comes back.

She goes back in her office. And at the end of the day, I am curious—like, what did she go in there to talk to him about? So she came over to my office, as she always did, and I said, “So what were you talking to Duane about?”

And she said, “Oh, I told them that we’re teaching the tellers that they need to enthusiastically greet people and show that they care. And because he’s an introvert, he always just walks in every day, and he goes right to his desk, and he never really says hello to anybody. I asked him, could he stop over by the teller station, like, twice a week for, like, thirty seconds and just say hi and, you know, get to know some other people’s kids—some of your folks’ kids’ names—and just kinda, like, connect with them.”

And I said, “Well, what did Duane say?” And she said, “He said he’d be delighted.”

And that’s the day I got a lesson.

Oh, I don’t need to be a victim when a manager doesn’t do what a manager needs to do. I need to go ask for what I need. See, there’s that adulting thing again. We have to discover how to ask for what we need as opposed to that unattractive thing in adults that we do, which is complaining when they don’t get what we need, because your manager didn’t have a “poof” experience, and so they’re just trying to do the best job that they can, and they need you to help guide them.

And I assure you, if you’re a good guide, the world will notice you and will serve you well as you’re helping other people. But in the meantime, you will have a much more joyful life as well. So get on it. Go ask for what you need.

Decide to make your boss the best boss you ever had—because you make that happen.

When the Answer is Always “Now”

Monday, October 20th, 2025

Neutral moments don’t exist in service. Every interaction either elevates or erodes trust. This week’s video is your fast reset: choose “wow” on purpose—and choose it now.

You’ll discover how to:

Make “now” your default. When a supervisor or teammate asks, act immediately. That speed isn’t about ego; it’s about the downstream customer experience they’re responsible for. Delay kills wow.

Serve inside to win outside. External customers feel the energy of your internal handoffs. Treat colleagues as customers—clarity, speed, and follow-through create the conditions for external delight.

Engineer the wow. Ask in real time: What would make this “wow, that was amazing”? Then do the next right thing—right now.

Culture isn’t what’s written on the wall; it’s how fast and how well we serve each other when it counts. “Now” becomes a competitive advantage when it’s a habit across your org chart. That habit compounds into loyalty, referrals, and profit.

Ready to hard-wire this into your team’s daily rhythm?

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What if you thought about every encounter with a customer as a chance to create a wow encounter?

Let’s face it. You’re either going to have a wow encounter or an un-wow, but it’s never a neutral event. So we need to constantly choose: How could I create a wow experience here?

Now, as we’re looking at wow experiences, we can’t forget the internal customers. Those who are also working within our organization, who need to support those who are outside of our organization—AKA the customer—need to have wow experiences as well. So whether you’re an internal customer service person or an external customer service person, think about the wow. And never forget what Guy Kawasaki talked about.

He said that whenever your supervisor asks for something, the answer is “now.” So when they’re asking for something to be done, make sure to prioritize what they need, because they probably have an outcome and a customer experience that they need to create, and them having to wait means that they cannot create the wow. So always approach every encounter with every one of the people that you work with, including your customers, as the potential to create a “Wow, that was amazing!” experience. What if you started approaching it that way today?

Accountability and Clear Metrics

Sunday, October 12th, 2025

Accountability and clarity—the twin engines of a high-performance culture.

It turns out 84% of employees want accountability because it creates a positive workplace. 67% say it motivates them when others are held responsible. And younger team members are quick to leave when leaders don’t enforce accountability.

This isn’t a minor workplace preference—it’s a rallying cry for leaders to step up. Employees are begging for clarity around expectations and metrics that define what “winning” looks like. They want to know the game plan, the score, and how to improve their play.

Here’s the insight: Accountability isn’t punishment—it’s empowerment. It’s what transforms chaos into consistency and potential into performance. When people know the score, they bring more focus, energy, and pride to the work.

If your culture lacks accountability and clear metrics, it’s not just slowing your performance—it’s driving your best people away.

Discover how to turn accountability into the heartbeat of your culture.

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This may come as a shock to you. Eighty-four percent of American workers believe accountability creates a positive work culture. Not only that, but sixty-seven percent of working Americans are encouraged and supported by pointing out a lack of accountability at work.

And get this—young people are more likely to want to quit their jobs if leadership doesn’t hold people accountable for living the defined values of the organization.

Employees are significantly more likely than managers to associate underperformers with blaming others instead of taking accountability for their performance.

This demonstrates a clear, consistent call for a culture of accountability.

Eighty-four percent is more than a simple request—it’s an appeal to leadership to give specifics to a high-performance culture that encourages all employees to realistically evaluate their own performance against well-defined and clearly communicated expectations.

It really should come as no surprise that employees want to feel good about their performance. Everybody likes to win the game. Here’s the problem: they can only do that when they clearly understand the game plan. They want to know what the target is so they can figure out how to hit it.

Almost eight out of ten employees wish companies had clear performance metrics for all positions so that every team member would know how to win.

Seventy-six percent of older millennials think unclear work expectations hurt both the company and its employees. Instead of wishing for vague performance metrics that make it easy to slide by, employees want to know what’s expected, where they stand, and what they need to do to be the best.

Well-defined metrics aren’t just important to employees—they’re essential to building a high-performance culture. Who knew? Accountability and clarity around metrics—what a combo!

Clean Up Your Messes

Monday, October 6th, 2025

Integrity isn’t about never making mistakes—it’s about how you respond when you do.

Every leader, every team member, every human will inevitably disappoint someone, miss a deadline, or break a commitment. The problem isn’t failure—it’s the refusal to clean up the mess.

In this week’s video, Roxanne Emmerich reveals how trust crumbles not from major betrayals, but from the small, unacknowledged breaches we never repair. Through the stories of Ron, Sharon, and Tim, you’ll discover how broken commitments erode confidence and self-worth—and how a simple, courageous cleanup process restores both.

The formula?

-Acknowledge what went wrong—without excuses.
-Take ownership for fixing it.
-Recommit to the integrity others (and you) can rely on.

Real leadership means cleaning up your messes quickly, sincerely, and completely.
Because when trust is restored, culture strengthens—and performance follows.

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You’re human. You can assume that.
And if that’s true, you’ll always make mistakes—you can count on it.
You’ll miss deadlines. You’ll disappoint people by not meeting their expectations or living up to your commitments.

If there are people who’ve evolved beyond the ability to display complete integrity at every waking moment, I haven’t met one yet.
Knowing that, it’s critical to sustaining great relationships to possess the ability to clean up your messes as you make them.

Ron, a marketing specialist, missed one deadline after another. Soon, his entire team felt let down and began to work around him.

Sharon, a loan processor, repeatedly made mistakes in her loan documents. Nobody ever closed a loan without wasting time double-checking her work. She couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t getting promoted or earning bonuses like the others—after all, she’d been there longer.

Then there’s Tim Mattinger, who promised his mom he’d weed the flower garden every week during the summer. More often than not, he skipped a week. Soon, dandelions outnumbered daffodils.

From their own perspectives, none of these flaws seemed major. They all did plenty of things well.
But what they missed was this: they consistently defied the trust of the people around them.
And relationships—personal or professional—are built on trust. Without trust, there is no foundation for a relationship.

Each time they failed to do what they said they would, they breached that trust. Worse, they never came back to clean up the mess.

A cleanup has two parts:

  1. Acknowledge that the results are not okay, and
  2. Commit to corrective action.

When Ron missed his deadline, he owed it to his team to say:
“I blew it. I missed the deadline. There’s no excuse. It shouldn’t have happened. I’m putting a tickler system in place so it won’t happen again.”

Sharon should say to her boss:
“I made mistakes in this document, and that’s not acceptable. I’m adding a checklist to ensure accuracy. I want you to be able to trust me.”

Tim could tell his parents:
“I blew it. I didn’t follow through, and that’s not okay. I’ll make sure the garden is weeded by Saturday afternoon every week. You can count on me.”

People will always make mistakes—but others will forgive us when we come clean and show we understand where we fell short, and that we care enough to fix it.

When we don’t, others lose faith in us—and we lose faith in ourselves.
Every broken commitment chips away at our self-esteem, sending it into a downward spiral of unkept promises and eroded self-worth.

And what you don’t want is to be an apologetic liar—someone who says “I’m sorry” but keeps repeating the same behaviors.
“I’m sorry” means nothing without action.

Instead, say,
“I blew it. It’s not okay. Here’s what I’ll do to correct it.”
That’s how we restore faith—in others, and in ourselves.