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How to make every decision a good one…

Monday, February 7th, 2022

Do you make good choices? Really? If so, how often?

Do you make good choices? Really? If so, how often?

  • Most of the time?
  • All the time?
  • Some of the time?
  • Hardly ever?

Making good choices will define the results you create in your life.

But most people don’t have a really good idea how to go about making good choices. You see, when we’re looking at a choice, we have to ask these questions and give honest answers:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”

And as we look at each of those three columns, we have to ask ourselves, “what’s the likelihood that you’re going to get the best possible outcome?” “Can I live with the worst possible outcome?” And “Is it worth it to do what’s most likely?”

By actually writing those three things out in three different columns (example above), It’ll be very clear, what is the right decision to move ahead with.

What’s the likely scenario?

Let’s say you’re thinking about getting a new job, because a lot of people are thinking about and doing that right now.

So, what is one of the best things that could happen? You could get a raise! That would be fantastic. There could also be more ease in your job. Obviously, those would be some of the best things that could happen.

What’s the worst thing that could happen? Well, you could get that new job and later decide you hate it or hate the people you’re working with every day. You could also get that new job and find out exactly why the person left that you’re replacing.

Now, if you leave right away, you’ve got this hole in your resume, and that’s going to look really, really bad, because you’ve job-hopped a couple of different times.

Other worst things? The economy could turn such that they start laying people off, and since you’re the new person, you’re the first one to be laid off and your family no longer has that income to rely on; that stability.

What’s the likely scenario? Likely you might get a little bit of a raise, and likely, you’re probably going to have more work to and it’s going to be harder to do the work because you’re new to the job and getting used to a new boss, etc.

So it’s likely, it’ll be more stressful than the situation that you have now. And likely, you’re not going to have the same depth of relationships as what you are enjoying now, so you’ll lose a lot of that feeling of connection. So, your decision grid might look something like this:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”
Get a raise
Less work
Better people
Better boss
Little raise
Little more work
to do
More stress at first
Less connection with people at first
More work
Might hate it
Worse co-workers
Job/conditions are worse
Hole in resume if…
1st out if layoffs happen  

Now you can go forward with a decision using the follow-up questions above.

You see, most people when they’re looking for a new job, for example, and they’re making a decision, look only at the one column and their decision grid looks more like this:

“What are the things that can go right here? Best possible outcomes…”“What is most likely to happen?”“What are the things that can go wrong? The worst possible outcomes…”
Get a RAISE!!!      

They’re going to pay me more. Yep, there’s always another side to that story.

Ask yourself these questions:

Now ask yourself this:

“How can you instead stay in this job and find a way to be worth more and create a career for yourself?”

It’s fascinating how the people who seem to do best in life tend to hang on to those jobs and find ways to continue to be advanced within their organization.

So, for career decisions and any decisions you make, ask yourself these questions:

  • How can you learn more?
  • How can you move ahead better?
  • How can you make better decisions in everything that you touch?

Oh What a Year!

Monday, December 27th, 2021

An Opportunity to Create Something Better

Oh, what a year this last year has been, and thank goodness, we get a new first start!

Let’s face it, there will probably be some challenging times ahead, just like we’ve had a challenging year behind us, and what an opportunity! And when I say opportunity, that means we can either look at the new year and see only problems ahead of us, or we can look at it and say, “Hmm, what an opportunity to create something better. What do I want to go create?”

Create a Great Day

Most people say, “Have a good day!” Honestly, I think that’s kind of silly; I think we should be saying, “Create a great day!” Because if we’re being honest, when we wake up in the morning and start finding all the things that are going wrong, we tend to create more things that go wrong.

When we wake up in the morning and ask the question, “I wonder what really amazing, great thing is going to happen today,” we create amazing things.

So as you approach this next year, approach it with a passion in your heart to make a bigger difference on the world than you’ve ever made before. Have more fun than you’ve had before.

Decide that the setbacks are temporary, say “Oh well that happened! onward we go.” And bring joy to everything that you do.

I wish you the happiest of the new year to make sure that you and all of those you love create a spectacular one!

– Roxanne Emmerich

Better Than Santa Claus…

Monday, December 20th, 2021

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you!

As I think about my life growing up, I loved Christmas because, well, we would get presents! And as a kid, that was a really cool thing.

Be Present with Others

As an adult though, I’ve learned that there’s something even better than receiving presents and that is being present for other people.

Being there with them. Listening to them. Hearing what’s going on in their lives. Finding ways to help them!

That is the great opportunity!

So as you begin this holiday season, think about how you could be more present to those that you love—to those that you love at work. And let’s face it, we do get to love the people we work with because we often spend more time with them than we do with our own families.

Learning to be present with others brings great power. Let’s give it a try.

Merry Christmas to you.

– Roxanne Emmerich

Escape Overwhelm: Focus on Completions

Monday, April 20th, 2020

One of the best ways to create more success is to celebrate successes: those of your team and your own successes as well.

I don’t know about you, but I’m one of those crazy people who, when I’m working on something, I use a list to make sure I’m getting the things done that need to happen on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis. Sometimes, I step in and I do something extra that wasn’t on the list. In that case, I make a little box and I check it off.

Sounds crazy, I know. But when I talk about it with other people, they all say they do the same thing! Why do we do that? Because the brain needs to have the chemical “hit”  of completion. It creates confidence to get more data points of success

Whenever someone is in “overwhelm,” what they’re really telling you is: “I am not completing.”

When you have completions, that’s when you get energy! So, celebrate your completions! And, make sure that the completions you’re working toward are the ones that most matter.

The more you celebrate, the faster you get to your completions and the more successful you feel. Change your brain waves forever, build some new neural pathways in your brain, and decide to celebrate every success.

How to Thrive in the Recession: Lean-in to Your Customers

Sunday, April 19th, 2020

Difficult times require us to get massive about making an impact on our customers. What used to work will not be enough in the future. Now is the time to be calling them and finding out what’s going on with them. Find out what they’re fearful about, find out what their dreams are, find out where they think they might be compromising their dreams, asking them how they might take advantage of this situation to find other revenue streams and different opportunities.

Recessions historically have been the opportunity to pull ahead. And one of the best things that you can do is help your people dream the next possibility. Those who sit and wait to be told what to do and stay in the old actions will be very limited, both for you, within your organization, and also for them. So now is the time to get massive about helping your customers see a new possibility, and get busy helping them accomplish that possibility. By helping other people, that’s how we help ourselves and our own organizations.

Now is a wakeup call for us to get even better at that than we ever were before. So seize the opportunity.