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Gratitude for What IS

Monday, March 23rd, 2020

Are you grateful for what is?

I’m grateful for the air around me. I’ve been to China, and I couldn’t see across the street in the middle of the day due to smog! I’m grateful for the trees and the beauty that they bring, and the blue sky and the beauty that it brings. The friends that I have in life, and the opportunities that I have.

Being grateful is one of the ways that we bring sanity into our lives. Sure, my life is just like yours—there’s a million things I could complain about. There are many things going wrong, there are people with challenges, friends who have health issues, friends who have died of cancer, and so on. I could spend my energy being consumed about that. But, although I do have concerns, I choose not to be consumed. Instead, I choose to have an attitude of gratitude.

What if you looked around today and you were grateful for your feet and grateful for your hands? And grateful that your heart is pumping, and grateful that you can take in that next breath of air? Because the reality is, every one of those is a gift, and when we live in a state of acceptance of the gifts that we have and gratitude for them, we have a better outlook about life. When we live from a place where we give gratitude for what is, we create better things because our spirit is one of joy, and with joy, we attract even better circumstances.  

Bring Your Higher Self

Monday, March 9th, 2020

We’re all angels on the good days, aren’t we? Sure, it’s easy to be nice when everything’s working perfectly. People are patting you on the back. You’re ahead of your work. You’re feeling on top of your game.

But, what about those times when things aren’t working so well? That’s when we must choose to bring in our higher selves—especially when we feel least justified in having to do that.

Sometimes we feel like getting even or hurting another because we’ve been hurt. That’s when we’re called to rise above it all and choose to bring our highest and best selves.

Choose wisely whenever something isn’t going well. Take a deep breath and ask yourself: “What would my highest self do in this situation?” I promise you—you’ll never regret those actions.

Want to be Really Happy?

Monday, January 20th, 2020

Albert Schweitzer said: “I don’t know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.”

A beautiful statement…

When we lose ourselves in something because we’re “up to something big” to make a difference for someone else, that’s where true joy comes from. Alternatively, whenever we become very self-consumed—which, of course, is the norm for most of us on a daily basis—we begin to go into the “not enough” conversation. “No one’s appreciating me enough.” “No one’s loved me enough.” “No one’s given me enough instructions.” “No one’s supporting me enough.” “I’m not being congratulated enough.”

In that mind space, nothing great happens. Greatness happens when we realize  the true value that we offer. We are fed by the “intrinsic reward” of knowing that our work is purposeful and we’ve done something good for another human being. Impact on others is the ultimate reward and that’s where true joy comes from.

Keep your goals visible

Thursday, November 17th, 2016

You made a New Year’s resolution to set goals, and you’re doing it. Bravo! But are you doing it as effectively as possible?

Goals are only effective if you act on them, and you can’t act on them if you can’t see them. Too many people create a list of personal or professional goals, then sock it away in a drawer somewhere. Those goals are as good as dead. They will never happen.

Instead of filing them away, create a very visible place for those goals.

I have a friend who made her list of goals the screensaver on her computer. She sees them a hundred times a day, which means there’s a good chance she’ll achieve them. Laminate them and put them up in the shower. Stick them to your steering wheel. Whatever it takes to keep them front and center.

Organize your goals into separate lists according to timescale—goals for the week, for the month, and for life.

Don’t include everything. Life offers thousands of opportunities, but maybe ten of those will take you where you want to go. Don’t let those crucial ten get lost in a list a mile long. Focus on the ones that count, then post them where you’ll see them every single day.

Share Your Limits

Monday, October 10th, 2016

There’s always more work to be done….am I right? But one of the most productive things anyone can do is set definite limits on the work you bring home. Sometimes it’s unavoidable, and that’s fine. But when it becomes a norm to work through the evening, you are sapping your energy and reducing your productivity. And nobody wins that game.

Want some help keeping those limits in place? Share them with those around you.

If you’ve decided not to work after 7 pm, tell your wife or husband and the kids. They’ll hold you to it, believe me! And both your work life AND your home life, will be better for it.